I found this when I got to work this morning and accually filled it out. I am not sure if it will win, but I wanted to do something that I feel is a topic that many of us struggle with. Here is the site: http://www.think-off.org/index.php The following is what I wrote for it.
Is it ever wrong to the do the right thing? I believe that many have asked this in their lives. Rosa Parks may have asked that for years after she sat down on a white bus. Many of our Presidents may have thought that when faced with a moral judgment on many matters that may affect the outcome of history and what they could be remembered for. As for personal experience, there are many times where I had to make a choice. Right or wrong and knew no matter what the outcome, it would affect my life for the rest of my life. On a personal note, was it right for me to place my daughter up for adoption, because of what the state and my ex-wife thought I did. I was questioned, I was put up to some very hard tasks to find out if the choices I had made, were honest and honorable, or I was just a plain old liar. I held fast to the truths I had learned when I grew up. If someone was truly innocent, they would stand the tests that would be thrown at them, and still come out the other side clean. Years down the road, it would be brought back up about the incident, but I would still hold firm to my belief and knowledge that nothing happened to my little girl. Yet I choose to let her go, so that the environment she was now in could help her grow to be a better person. I am not sure if I could ever forgive myself or my ex-wife for making the choice to have her adopted out, and I still wonder what would have happened if I had stayed where I was and continued to fight for my rights to be her father and learn the skills I needed to be a better father and raise her right. Though there would be tests, there would be finger pointing, there would be those who no matter what was proven by the former, would not believe that I never did anything to her. Having thoughts is one thing; acting upon those impulses is another. Hence if we were ever to be arrested for our thoughts, I think there would no room for us all in prison. There are seven deadly sins in the world. No one will ever escape the fact that there is at least one in our lives, and it will prove to our destruction. No one can be perfect; many think they can if they have perfect credit, if they have the best car, the finest house. Did they do the right thing? What makes them better than those of us who work each day, and struggle to pay bills, have a past that haunts them? Do they do the right thing and are ever punished for it? I have seen the Good Samaritan law being pushed aside due to peoples head strong belief that the guilty need to be punished. Is it ever wrong to do the right thing? In some instances yes. In others no. Defining right and wrong should not be left up the ones who hold power over us. It is to be defined as those who make the choice to stand up for what they believe in, have a strong conviction that what they do is the right choice and will affect others in a positive light. I pray one day, when I meet with my daughter after so many years, that when I tell her of the choice I made, she can forgive me and know that I did make the right choice.






2 comments:
Wow that was beautiful honey. I know you have been struggling for some time and you still will even as the years go by...Even if you don't win the contest you are a winner in my book. You know my feelings on this issue and you know my beliefs. You have someone in your corner...plus Ben of course. Love ya and talk to you later.
You don't need to come beg for comments, you silly, but I guess it worked because here I am. I just thought I'd keep my thoughts to myself when I read your blog so I didn't make anyone upset, but since you asked here's my comments.
I like your essay and I wonder myself about things I did, what my life would be like if certain things hadn't happened. Like placing my son for adoption, losing my dad & brother, getting a whole new family & feeling hated at my home. What would my life be like if I hadn't placed my son? What what his life had been like if I kept him? What would have happened if my dad and brother hadn't died? What if my parents showed more love to me? These are questions that will never be answered. All I know is that it was happened and it was I needed to be who I am. It was right for my son to be placed and there is no doubt in my mind he is where he is supposed to be. I wonder if I had kept him would I be married to my current husband and have all the blessings I have. I don't really know. Even though I made such bad choices and had such a hard childhood I am grateful for the knowledge I learned through them and the compassion I feel towards others because I have been there. I hope one day (if you don't now) you can feel peace about things and look back and be proud of what you are and what you have gone through to get what you want. I have heard many times the stronger spirits get harder trials, but if all our trials were in a bag and we could go around looking at others we would still go and choose our bag. The lord knows what we need in order to be our best selves. It may seem like the end will never come, but it will. All we can do is try to be our best selves we can be and he will fill in the gaps.
Anyway this is the longest comment ever, but you asked for it. haha.
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